When we talk about courage, we usually talk about action.
- Speaking up.
- Taking a stand.
- Having the difficult conversation.
- Going after what you want.
But lately, several conversations with clients have had me thinking about a different kind of courage:
The courage to let go.
- To say goodbye when every part of you wishes things were different.
- To stop fighting for an outcome that isn’t going to happen.
- To disappoint people you care about because you know what you need.
Many of us have spent years being dependable, accommodating, and helpful. We become so focused on not letting others down that we forget to listen to ourselves.
But there are moments when taking care of yourself means someone else won’t get what they want.
I don’t think that’s selfish.
That’s courageous.
Holding on isn’t always a sign of strength. Sometimes courage and strength look like acceptance. Like letting go. Like trusting that ending something isn’t the same thing as failing.
What are you holding onto—not because it’s right for you, but because you’re afraid of what might happen if you let it go?
Michael Piperno is a communication coach and executive presence expert. His insights empower leaders to communicate effectively and authentically.